The List

Recently, I've been in conversation with friends, females and "the list" seems to be in most of our conversations about men. All Women, regardless of race or age have "the list." The List is what type of man a woman wants. It's personal preference. But usually the list have similar things on there, like He must know and love God and have a job, etc. The above mentioned are usually on most women's list and most important to most. Of course: looks, a car, apt/house(not living with parents) and some form of education are the jist of the list as well. All of my friends are independent, educated, in their career or working on it...and doing what they got to do. But there's a link missing. No1 to submit to. This could stem from a lot of things: looking in the wrong place, baggage, to independent, the ratio of women to men, etc. But what I see the problem to be, is the list. Most list are not realistic and some of my friends/women in general are not willing to compromise some of the things on the list. And the #1 failure is not giving the list to GOD! Give the list to God, he will give you everything you deserve and more. It may not come in a dark skin man who has dreads, that's tatted up, with some meat on his bones, that has a Masters or PH.D, drives a Lexus and makes six figures or more and loves God. (Yep, that would be my ideal man) Or write your list in pencil and give it to God who has the eraser so HE can remove the things that you want....HE will supply all your NEEDS. My list is no longer the above, now it consists of a man who not only loves God but has an intimate/personal relationship with HIM, honesty, a provider and a protector, room to grow together, equally yoked and has a vision/mission so I can be in submission. Also, ladies, when you give you list to God, remember that the list may not be fulfilled when you want it and God may even tell you that this is your season to walk alone,to be single because there are some things He wants to do with you and in you!
So, if there must be a list, let it be a God approved, realistic, willing to comprise list!